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Posted on Nov 19th, 2008 by waterheart : watershaman waterheart
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for November 19, 2008:

As a result of a divorce after 17 years of marraige,my daughter,Kyra who was only 8 at the time was deeply wounded.So was I.The week-ends that I was with my children,this included Ryan who was 6 were far too short and just as we were all bonding it was time to go back to Mom and her new boyfriend.His arrogance at having taken my family from me was unbearable and the pain of seeing him with my children was deep...........Years went by and there were times when my own life was unraveling and I neglected my children.I was oblivious to my daughters pain that her daddy was not there for her....What began to happen was that when she tried to express that pain through her anger,my guilt brought on my anger and we both became highly volatile,so much that we could not be in the same room for years....As the years went by we had moments of tolerance via phone,but even then most of the calls ended with pain in our hearts..................So often I would sit after a call and wonder if we would ever heal,and as the tears rolled down my cheeks the ache in my heart was almost unbearable...........So,this week of having her here was a challenge we both wanted as the LOVE was there,but so was the pathology the dark side of our hate for the past.We were ready we thought,but our intensity,which people talk about,and which makes us both so passionate and strong in our respective careers came out and took us beyond our expectations.We were not ready...and we fell into the depths,reeling from the onslaught of vicious words,carefully chosen to cut deep into the soul,we staggered through,and crawled back into each others arms,realising that we only have this moment and the choice to do whatever we want in it.......Behind the pain in our eyes we saw the desire for love....I saw the beauty in my daughter like never before,the dark vice that had gripped my heart opened and I reached out,she came to me and we held on to each other so tightly that we could scarcely breathe....the kisses I always wanted to give her but somehow were lost in awkwardness,were now the healing salve,our tears washed away the pain and we saw our true selves in each others arms....Things happen in their own time....and this healing had been a long time coming....I feel so different about me and I am beyond happiness that we are in this moment where we always only dreamed of being.......LOVE has found a way......peace is in our hearts...Kyra you are my Princess.
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33 minutes later
Nightphoenix said

thank you for this blog

waterheart : watershaman
41 minutes later
waterheart said

Hi Nightphoenix..I am glad that it resonated…peace

mum's  the word : Cosmic Hindu Explorer
about 1 hour later
mum's the word said

There couldn't be a more happier ending, to what your disheartened spirit had gone through.  My heart couldn't be more joyous for you, Ralph.

May your hearts be nurtured with unconditional love….always.

God Bless,

Much love,…Ri'

about 1 hour later
richDUCK said

what a beautiful release for both of you, Ralph! Thanx so much for sharing your experience, even though painful, I'm sure. And kudos for the courage to lay it out for others to read. May ALL of your's & your daughter's healing (as well as Ryan's) be made complete & whole in such the way to only strengthen your bonds.


love conquers ALL!

Zephyr : Poeticspirit
about 1 hour later
Zephyr said

Someimes from our despair and dark times our greatest gifts come, I am so happy for you both. Kudos for the great courage it must have taken to wrIte this.
may love be in your hearts always.

about 9 hours later
Daydreamer said

This is truly a remarkable experience to read about.  The unconditional love worked through all of the other materials that hid its presence.  You have given myself and I am sure many others, the inspiration to work on relationships that desperately need love's healing hand.

What a blessing & joy to read this.  You are light & you are love, dear Rafael.

Lotsa love… <3

waterheart : watershaman
1 day later
waterheart said

Ri,thanks for your kindness,it nurtures.Rich,thanks for the visit,and love does fantastic things in our lives if we allow it…Hi Gael….it flowed out of me when I was sooo ecstatic about the healing and before I knew it …there it was…Rachel,you are love and light as are all the Gaians who put love and light on the blogs of each other and generate the energy to transform this planet into the true place we have within the universe……LOVE to all

ange : dawn song
4 days later
ange said

Such a profound post Ralph..

It is real and inspiring,
 I honor your spirit for sharing in such a beautiful way,
I wish you both blessings and joy in your prescious love together…

Love
Ange..

waterheart : watershaman
4 days later
waterheart said

Thank you ange…..it took both of us really wanting to love…and we managed to make it happen..she was great!!! love to you too……….R

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